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Why do Men and Women Cheat?

Couples Counselling: Cheating – Why do Men and Women Cheat? Guest Article by Richard Cole The most basic answer to why do men cheat isn’t because they want sex. Men cheat because they miss the feeling of being admired and feeling a woman positively responding to them. Usually with their partner they feel criticised and undermined. Men need to feel they can make their partner happy and to feel...

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Recovering from infidelity 4: is it time to say goodbye?

As you consider the future of your relationship following an affair, there will be many factors to consider, and we explore some of these below. It may be, of course, that either you or your partner have decided to end the relationship, so you already have an answer of sorts. The questions in this section are intended to help if you are still trying to make a decision on this issue. Below are just some of...

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Recovering from infidelity 3: reasons why people have affairs

One of the first questions clients tend to ask following discovery of an affair is “why did my partner cheat?” Often they will already have asked their partner the same question, but the answer doesn’t make any sense to them, or doesn’t seem a good enough explanation. It can be a very difficult question to answer – we can talk about the reasons people often give for cheating,...

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Recovering from infidelity 2: the next step

Once you have discovered an affair, you need to decide what to do next… should you confront your spouse immediately or take a more measured approach? Before launching into confrontation, make a conscious effort to calm down and step back, take some time to gather your thoughts. If you can present the evidence to your spouse in a calm, controlled way it is likely to be a much more productive...

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Recovering from infidelity 1: coping with discovery

The days following discovery of an affair may be devastatingly painful. Many people report that their first emotion is shock. They find themselves wondering how it could have happened and questioning whether there can be any future for their relationship. Men and women who have recently discovered that their partner is cheating report experiencing a whole range of emotions, including anger, fear, pain,...